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Marriage.

I had a dream that i was pregnant. It felt so real. In my little white dress, and my hands on my belly.
I felt so special and pretty, a feeling that a model will never feel despite all the runways...
Maybe it was the way i was treated by people around me. I was on a new level.

Maybe it was the way the drivers would stop their cars even before i had my right foot on the road. Maybe it was the way people will give way on a busy street . Maybe it was how the driver would turn down the volume when i got in the loud matatu.
Maybe it was the way he opened the door for me and pulled a chair for me. So i sat there thinking about him, the father of my unborn baby. Back to reality, am not pregnant, it must be my hormones playing tricks on me when i am sleeping.

Google has many definitions on marriage. I have never come across a positive one.
If not two people who are inlove with each other seeking a paper proof that they can legally live together then it is loving each other even in those days when you are trying so hard to like each other.
Another will jokingly say that marriage is taking care of a big baby whose parents are already tired of.

Back to my views... why do we get married?
Is it because we are of age, or we fell inlove, or it is the pressure from parents, is it that our friends have already settled, or how the society has raised us, or it is the sex we need, or we just want kids, is it for the money, or he just wants to hide his homosexuality behavior, maybe it's the church, or the promises he made...i don't know.

It is always the woman who looks forward to be wifed up. Maybe because she was raised to aspire to marriage, or maybe she is just an emotional being who desperately needs love from a man, or maybe her womb desperately needs to carry babies or maybe it is that one ex who cursed her to be single forever and so she wants to prove him wrong.

Despite everything it is always the woman who tries her best to be a "wife material " and even if she succeeds, she still has to maintain that marriage.

What about the man? He only marries when he wants to. Marriage is not his goal. You will find him at 40, single, living life, he doesn't worry like she does.

Is he not intrested? I don't know but maybe, just maybe,  maybe it is the fact that he will stay fertile forever, or maybe his boys are just too cool to be replaced by one single crazy girl, or maybe the nude photographs in his gallery are just enough to satisfy his lust, or maybe he is broke, or maybe he is made to believe that women only want money, or maybe it is the many heartbreaks he had in the past, is he still waiting for Maureen to notice him, or he is waiting for Lydia to turn 18, or his mother won't let him go... and i don't want to know. 

What happens after marriage? Don't ask me either, but i was never told how heavenly marriage could be. Men can't multitask,so he pauses his career and gets a wife.
Women don't know this.

So after the honeymoon he needs to go back to work, so he can provide for his wife and make her happy. She starts missing the 'quality time' they always had. He goes out at 6:00 am to avoid traffic, he comes back home at 8:00 pm because he was caught up in traffic. He is never free on weekends, even on public holidays. His job won't allow him.

She misses all the dates they used to go. He is too tired to even listen to her. It is now two years and his mother visits. His wife can't get along with his mother.
All this is followed by two years of fighting.

A one year old kid is caught up in this mess. The 'two' are thinking of divorce but they keep delaying signing the papers.
Why?
Maybe because he promised forever, or she promised she will stay in good and bad times.

So y'all left the good times during courtship and spend your bad days in marriage.
Why y'all make marriage seem like a life long imprisonment?  Why don't y'all  just date forever if that is the only way you two could stay happy and inlove...

Comments

  1. Marriage is very special. It is a testament your love to your other half. To make it last long you treat each other a respect and love each other forever.

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    1. You are right. Marriage is indeed a special bond.

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  2. Marriage is so much special and its the bonding of two different souls and can be between different races as well. We need to have respect for our partner and faith and it will help in building the relation.

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    1. I also agree with your view. Having faith is the most important. We should have faith that marriage will work and also pray to God about it.

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  3. Marriage is ordained of God. Marriage isva sacred covenant between a man a woman. They have a solemn spiritual obligation to be God's cocreators of the Heavenly Father's children.

    This is a depth doctrine of our Church. For the sake commenting I am sharing this.

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    1. No words could explain it better than yours. Marriage is ordained by God.
      Thanks.

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  4. marriage is difficult thing , you have a lot of responsibilities on you. it is also my dream to get pregnant soon but can not do anything only pray. i wish all couples can get what they want in their marriage life and also bless with cute babies.

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    1. I also wish all couples can get what they want in their love life. And I agree, it is indeed difficult but can be eased up by mutual understanding of both partners.

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  5. Marriage is about loving, trusting and addicting to each other entirely. Marriage isn't just something you do for times or so people can say he's/she's finally married. You need to know it's a task you must be willing to do and uphold. On the reviews you gave about a man not wanting to get married, it's not as if the man doesn't need but most of the time thinks he needs to be ready or he needs to find the one who fits perfectly. Sometimes it took some men forever to get married, while some never did. But if only people know they can actually make anyone be the one for then eventually, not just anyone but at least someone who makes you alive then things wouldn't have gotten messy. At least once if some had taken marriage seriously it wouldn't have gotten this messy today. We need to be ready for marriage before we get married. Thank you.

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    1. You are right. We need to be ready before we commit.

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  6. marriage seems complicated but sooner or later i need partner in life.having commitments in life at first hard to deal with in my side..but having a partner is a free gift from god

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    1. Very true. Having a partner is a gift to us from God. It may seem hard at the beginning but every beautiful thing takes time to flourish.

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  7. a marriage is sacred thing, both partners should have their equal rights and should respect to each others, yes when two people live with another there are disputes but it does not mean that we should get seperated, we should solve the issue with talk.

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    1. I am glad you mentioned talking. Communication solves everything.

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  8. Marriage is special thing , it's a part of this life. (love and respect ) partners should respect each other.
    that's done.

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    1. Special indeed. Adding all ingredients will make it last. Love, respect, understanding, friendship, care e.t.c

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  9. The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It's a choice you make - not just on your wedding day, but over and over again - and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife.

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    1. You have put it nicely. A choice we make in our hearts over and over again. To love and stick with the same person everyday. I will make sure to remember this.

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  10. Marriage totally changes oir way of thinking and our feelings and we meet with our life partner and its special becuase we get married when we have passed our half life ;your post was intresting i like althing about our real life its glorious !!,thankx!!....

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    1. You are most welcomed India. Having a life partner is special because not everyone gets lucky to have a soulmate. I think this is something we should pray for so that we get blessed with a soulmate.

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