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If you’re not scared, you’re not doing it right.

Our brains contain more than 50 years of wisdom-gathering. When a challenge erupts, they go into Google mode and scan for solutions. Usually, they find them. But not so when reconstructing our lives after a significant life change. We’re now in unknown territory. The message we get from our brains: “no information available.” That’s darn scary.

Fear tells us we are in danger. But oftentimes it is imagined, not real.

Fear is not always a bad thing. It can sometimes move us to greatness. It can be your friend in just the right doses, but too much of it can kill you.
Fear is a tricky human emotion. It can paralyze you. It can keep you from your dreams. It can keep you small. It can also keep you safe.

It only grows when you let it consume you and that usually happens when we forget how helpful our fear is trying to be.

Releasing takes off the pressure, allows fear to go home and for possibility to take root in even the most difficult situations.

Know who’s running your ship. Is it you or your ego? Our ego is a nasty little devil who, if left unchecked, will have its negative way with our thoughts.

Feed your brain loving thoughts. After all, your brain believes everything you tell it!

Keep a journal next to your bed and start writing.
You’ll either reveal a gem that helps you, or you’ll get tired and fall asleep. Either way, you’ll dump your fears onto the written page and out of your brain.

Listen to music or inspirational tapes.
Next to your journal, stash your iPod, MP3 player or other portable music system. Insert your earphones and turn up the volume.

Take a brisk walk. Or dance! Guaranteed to spur feel-good endorphins - and smash gremlins!

Cry. Hard and often.
Cry those fears out. A good hard cry releases toxins and allows you to get your fear in perspective.

Let fear be your teacher.
It turns out your trepidations, middle-of-the- night panics, and free-floating anxiety can be the best life instructors of all.

“The deeper sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.”
That may be little consolation when you’re paralyzed by fear.


  1. My mind is usually accompanied by fear of the unknown. You post will help me to fight against all my fears. Your words have imbibed me with great strength to stand against all these unwanted fears.

    1. Thank you. I also need to constantly read this post from time to time because I am not perfect and I'm sometimes faced with fear.

  2. If you don't feel fear/scared, there's something wrong. Even Duke Togo aka Golgo 13, a fictional Japanese assassin who killed hundreds of bad people (mob boss, corrupt politician, etc.) even said to other sniper who don't fear to die and has an order to kill Duke (but instead the other sniper end up dead) that if you are not scared to die, you don't have a true will to survive. Fear save people in the brink of dangerous situations.

    1. Exactly. I like the illustration you have given and I hope other readers will learn from it.

  3. the person is born with only two fear, the fear of voice and fear of falling, all other fear is created by human himself.

    1. Thanks for this information. I am learning this today. I didn't know about being born with two fears until now, thanks to your post. :)


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